It’s not okay.
This week has been crazy busy. Between meetings, catching up from vacation, a magazine print deadline and the sprinkle of fun activities, I’ve had minimal relaxation time. It continued this weekend with my Saturday spent at the Baby & Tot Show.
If you’re ever looking for a way to deter yourself from having children for a few years, this is the exhibit to visit. So much screaming and everything smelled like poop.
Since it was in a convention centre the food options were limited to that you’d find at a football game. Hotdogs and hamburgers, nachos, etc. Since I was running on a whopping four hours of sleep I didn’t have time to pack a lunch and settled on the chicken fingers and fries. It had been forever since I treated myself to something deep fried and delicious – now seemed like the perfect time.
As I sat and ate my lunch, I chatted with my coworker about the norm – boys, life, work, boys. This was until we were rudely interrupted by a complete stranger.
“Should you really be eating that?” she scoffed.
“Yup!” I said.
“So, you’re going to the gym after?”
At this point my blood was boiling. What gave this total stranger the right to try and fat shame me? She knows nothing about me. She doesn’t know of my mostly-veggie dinner the night before, the steel cut oats I had for breakfast, or the large salad I was having as part of my dinner. She knew nothing about the anxiety I have faced all my life when it comes to food, or the help I have sought out for it. She knew nothing about my broken leg and how I wish I could get back into the gym.
Did I ask her if she should really have a child? No…even though some people should not be able to mould the thoughts of others.
So, ladies, now we’re calling each other fat, and sluts, and too skinny, and stupid, and boring, and too smart, and this, and that, and the other. STOP IT!
I may not be a size 2, but that’s my business not anyone else’s. But incase you’re curious: I don’t want to be a size 2.
Moral of this story? Two part: It is NOT okay to shame anyone AND mind your own business, lady!